Patience
Ephesians 4:2
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
There I was about an hour into my wait for a roller coaster named “The Beast” at Kings Island in Ohio. The Beast is one of the fiercest roller coasters one could ever ride, holding many world records for wooden coasters. I remember that my stomach was on edge and my anticipation level was very high as I got nearer to the main depot. However, as the night went on and time kept ticking away the line just seemed to move at a crawl. I would lean on one of the bars that kept us in line and listen for the next time the chain would let go of the train and drop about sixty screaming passengers into an underground tunnel. I couldn’t see it, but we would keep hearing it. The ride was working, but not fast enough. It was about a half an hour later that the ride operator came on the speaker and told us that we would have another half hour wait as maintenance worked on the ride. Oh, I was getting frustrated by this time, because there was so much else I wanted to do in the amusement park and here I was stuck in the line. The people around me gave their “boos” and sighs and many were complaining. I find it funny today that I could ever get so frustrated while I was waiting at an amusement park of all places. I guess my desire for no lines, no hassle, and no waiting could extend about anywhere.
I’ve got to be honest with you. The fruit of the Spirit that I lack the most is patience. My family has often made fun of the way I don’t like to wait for things, but feel the need to get things fixed right now. I understand the law of natural process and the need to let things simmer. However, it is not my nature to wait and be patient. I really need the Lord to help me on this one!
Ephesians 4:2 hits many of us square between the eyes. We often expect a certain level of service or production that can get us in a tizzy when things don’t go as fast as we’d want them. Sometimes we are under pressure by others to get a result and so we just hand the pressure down the line. High expectations can be good and it will always exist in one way or another at your job and in your home. However, patience is meant to be practiced on a personal level. We can choose to set expectations of others and let them know the consequences of those expectations while being patient with them at the same time. Patience deals with the state of what’s inside of us rather than what does or doesn’t happen around us.
Think of the times when we are waiting at the checkout line at Wal-Mart or Bi-Lo and it’s taking way too long. Why do we sometimes get so frustrated and possibly critical of the checkout person. Usually the problem isn’t with anyone else, but it’s because we have so many things going on with us that we feel someone’s keeping us from our next thing. I would contend that the most common reason for impatience is that we are too focused on ourselves instead of other people. We don’t often want to give into the thought that maybe God is having us wait for a purpose. Maybe God has us right where we are so that He could get us on His detour and off of our 110 mile an hour plan. Maybe God is hoping that we can hold integrity and kindness even when we must confront someone who is holding the operation up. Maybe, just maybe, Stephen Covey was right when he wrote, “Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood”. Maybe if I would listen first I could help solve problems rather than create new ones.
My prayer is that the Lord would help me be more patient and bear with people when they seem to slow down my plans. I pray that the Lord would help me to look through His eyes. He has always been patient with me, even though I’ve done enough to frustrate Him. Why can’t I be a little more like Jesus today in how I handle myself and what’s going on inside of me? I pray the Lord helps me to slow down long enough to see that people matter much more than plans. I just wonder if I can get things done and show kindness and patience with everyone in the process. I guess that really all depends on God and me.
